First Time Surrogates

 

Surrogacy is an intensely beautiful and incredible process to partake in. Offering your time and your body as a surrogate to help a couple realize their dreams of hosting a family can be an absolutely wonderful thing to do, and really demands our deep admiration of the one willing to go through this. However, while monetary compensation can apply in some countries, this isn’t exactly a ‘career path’ that you might wish to go down or define this process as. Also, surrogacy is one of those things that you can never just ‘try to see what it’s like.’ Surrogacy is something you go into with absolutely zero doubt, and the full knowledge available to you from the start. If you have even a hint of doubt or potential difficulty in making this decision, it’s not for you.

However, those who are trying to learn more about being a surrogate should consider how to make the right decisions from the offset. 

Know Your Legal Limits

While a legal framework comes into everything you will do in life, it applies double for matters as sensitive as this. You need to know exactly your rights and responsibilities. For example, in the United Kingdom, it is illegal for someone to accept money for surrogacy past expenses. In areas of the United States, it’s not uncommon for the entire process to net upwards of $40,000, with more depending on the conditions of the birth, such as if a cesarean section is needed during the birth.

However, payment is hardly the only legal issue. There can be stipulations about the contract you sign to begin with, a framework of contingencies about unforeseen developments. In some countries such as Iceland, surrogacy is illegal full stop. It’s a good rule of thumb to be aware of the law in any field you’re taking part in, but in something that affects the lives of so many so profoundly, we would recommend brushing up on your options with care and consideration.

You can do this with diligence, if only you:

Find A Competent Service

It is always, always, always the wisest to go through a surrogacy firm rather than trying to take part in a personal endeavor here. A solid service such as ConceiveAbilities can hold your hand right from the first donation, the first matters that surround your becoming pregnant, and can help shepard you through the process legally, financially, and ensure that the correct contractual arrangement is developed. For those small matters they might not be able to help with they will be able to refer you to another partnered specialist. A competent service can surely take the strange bite out of this process, and generally help you follow a formula that works in the interest of your safety, the surrogacy sponsor’s safety, and most importantly, the safety of the  child on the way.

Prepare Yourself Emotionally

This is not simply a favor you do for someone on the level of helping them out with the rent, or picking them up groceries for the weekend. This is a long process that requires a full, intensive use of your time and energy. It can affect the temporary health of your body, as we all know how demanding pregnancy can be. When heading to the end of the process, giving up the child to the hopeful parents will also be a difficult emotional time, no matter how protected you think you are against it.

The best surrogacy services can help you with this through and through – they know exactly the emotional rollercoaster you are to go through. That doesn’t  mean you can afford to leave all the emotional maintenance up to them. You need to be absolutely certain of what you’re doing when making this decision, know how to look after yourself through the decisions you make, and also prepare for a long-form and extremely intimate relationship with the surrogacy sponsors as they head through this term limit with you. You may not decide to stick around the family unit after the entire process, and that is more than your right. But while invested in it, you better believe that the nine-months of pregnancy will be a time of tumultuous emotions, and you owe yourself the ability to focus on the purpose of this happening in the first place.

With these tips, keeping first time surrogacy options in mind should be one of the most rewarding, profound processes you can ever take part in.