3 Talks You Need to Have With Your Partner Before You Get Married

My husband and I had pretty much a whirlwind romance. We met in October and by the following May we bought a house together. Then were engaged a few months later and married the following October. We were pretty much inseparable from when we first met so we did have a lot of talks before we got married and I’m glad we did.

Now I say there are a lot of talks to have with your partner before you settle down because its important to make sure you are on the same page. We are all different people, grew up different and have different views so merging with another person will always have its challenges.

Here are 3 talks I feel are important to have with your partner before you get married:

What do you want in your future? Do you want kids, to travel or to build a career? Maybe you want all of the above. Definitely important to make sure you want the same things or are at least willing to support each other and compromise.

Do you have life insurance or plan to? When we first got together we were so young and life insurance was far from the front of our minds. I knew it was important though to plan ahead and I grew up knowing life insurance was important. I figured we were young too so it would be easy to get life insurance but even if you are older and worried about your health there is life insurance with no medical exam you can get.

Where do you see yourself living? Not everyone thinks they are going to live in the suburbs with a white picket fence and a minivan. Some want to live in the city and raise their kids or not have kids and just explore the city for the rest of their lives. I feel the opposite actually – I grew up in Chicago, am raising my kids in the suburbs and wouldn’t mind moving back to the city after my kids are grown. I’d love to be able to walk down the street to a nearby shop or restuarant rather than drive a few miles away.

Did you talk to your partner before getting married? It is hard and no one wants to rush the future but it definitely makes it easier to be on the same track as your partner rather than find out later when its too late. I feel too that it’s hard to know what you want in the future let alone talk about it with someone else. I remember graduating college and being 40 years old was so far off. I also had no idea what I wanted in my future but I did have some ideas.