3 Ways Mothers Can Maintain a Sense of Self

Motherhood is always depicted in one of, if not the prime time of a woman’s life. The word you ever hear is “beautiful” as a mother pours in their love to this being that loves them unconditionally- at least in those early years. The children grow up, and inevitable, leave the nest. It is in this stage that we some mothers confused especially stay at home mothers. Their lives had revolved around their children, and with them gone, they find that they have to relearn themselves all over again.

How then, can a mother avoid the trauma of having to redefine your identity once your children are gone? Keep these few words in mind.

1. You were a woman before the kids came along

Kids in their early stages of life need attention, and, if one is not mindful, they might forget to check back in with themselves. Therefore, mothers need to remember that they had needs, dreams, expectations- everything- before the children came along. Thus, in as much as most of the routine will be dictated by the kids, it doesn’t have to spill over into your life and who you are. While you might wear the badge “mother” with honor, remember that there’s more to you.

2. Mothers still can look good

While putting mascara when you have toddlers in the house can be a tall order, taking care of yourself shouldn’t be at the back banner. Treating your trips to the salon with similar interest as lawyer and notary services will boost your confidence. Most women feel that they’ve lost their beauty after giving birth. However, it is in the small things like getting a new haircut and getting a dress that flatters your new body that works to renew our confidence. The need to feel pretty doesn’t fade with age. You might not obsess over it, but no one can refute the impact a compliment has on us on a day we’ve chosen to make our appearance priority.

3. Don’t forget to grow

The earth is designed to always be in a state of progression. If your life pauses because of your child or children, there will be a stagnation of sorts that kicks in. It is perhaps why we’ve heard mothers go “I gave my life to raise you” in an emotional fit when the children don’t match their expectations. It is therefore crucial that you also set milestones for yourselves and not focus on the baby’s firsts.

Wrap up

Ultimately, the best advice for mothers is never to walk the journey alone. Loneliness and isolation contribute to how people see themselves. Look for activities you can join and still spend time with your kids, only this time in the company of likeminded mothers. Having a community around you makes the going easier when it gets tough.