I once read that 50% of marriages end in divorce. I think that is a sad statistic, especially with all the options of marriage counseling out there. It makes me wonder how many of those 50% of couples tried therapy. I am not quite 30 years old and I already have two friends who are divorced, which just seems odd to me. It is funny (in a sad way) that we were the first of our friends to get married and two people from our wedding party are already divorced, after marrying after us!
I do think divorce is definitely something some couples should consider. There are just come couples that even with all the marriage help out there, there is nothing that can save their marriage. My parents for example got divorced when I was just about 1 years old, and they haven’t really talked since. They were just not meant to be together and I cannot imagine growing up with them still married – they had completely different parenting styles. I am very grateful though that my mom re-married shortly after and I got an awesome step-father (who actually walked me down the aisle when I got married).
Marriage is something that shouldn’t be jumped into, but I know love makes people do crazy things! I am fortunate that I have a wonderful husband and do not need to save my marriage. I do think though that marriage requires constant work and that some arguing is healthy. So everyday I try to realize how lucky I am to have a great husband and family, and how a little work goes a long way!
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Mindful Mom says
Marriages need constant attention and tune ups. I have found this more difficult since we have a daughter. So we do occasional weekends away and nights out. But day to day we have to make an effort to connect, but I think in the end it is worth the effort for us-although in some cases in may not be.
Becky says
I totally agree. Some people really should get divorced and some people just need to put a little effort into their lives.
I got married really young and really fast when I was 19, granted I am only 25 (tomorrow) but that is still 6 years of marriage under my belt and we have a 4 year old and 2 year old. I try my BEST to not take my husband for granted. He works hard so I can be home with the kids and just supplement income with nannying etc here and there. He is a GREAT dad! Plays with the kids SO much and spends a lot of daily life teaching them about the world. I really am lucky. I have LOTS of friends that are divorced. Got married fast and didn’t stick it out and make it work, just gave up as if it were a high school boyfriend. It makes me so sad for their children. That a simple few fights turned into giving up. You’re right, fighting is normal and healthy as long as it isnt out of hand.
Im happy to hear from another happy married women. To me honest, I don’t see too much of it anymore (in my circle of friends/acquaintances)
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Suzanne says
I agree that marriage takes a lot of work!! There are some very trying days – but the reward can be great! I too have a wonderful hubby – just celebrated out 15th anniversary!! We are still going strong!
lisa says
It is sad and our marriage has had some pretty horrible lows (including filing for divorce) but we’ve decided to work through them when so many just walk away because it isn’t really fun or all about the butterflies anymore